Reframing Weakness for 2021
Updated: Jan 16
It goes nearly without saying that 2020 has been a rough year for all of us. During stressful times we become acutely aware of our own shortcomings, sometimes to the point where it can interfere with our lives and self-esteem. Take a moment and ask yourself, what is your weakness? Are you quick to anger, prone to quit, scared of spiders?
This week, we host our final CLCI Live before we sign off for the holidays and talk with some alumni about how we can reframe our weaknesses into positive aspects of ourselves.
We begin with Lisa Finck (C.P.C., A.C.C.), Brooke Adair Walters (M.C.L.C., C.P.C), Rae Carmen (A.C.C., M.C.L.C), Jerome LeDuff Jr (M.C.L.C.), and alumni by listing some of our own self-perceived weaknesses. Brooke then walks us through a CLCI reframing worksheet where we come up with TWO situations where our weaknesses could be beneficial. So let's try it with our above examples.
Reframing our "weakness" into a strength
I am quick to anger
I stand up for myself or what I believe is right. I do not stand for injustice and have a high standard.
Becoming angry motivates me and gives me the passion I need to solve whatever problem I encounter.
I am prone to quit
I avoid the "sunk cost fallacy" and know that there are better uses of my time.
I can live a more meaningful life by quitting my boring desk job and becoming a Certified Life Coach™!
I'm afraid of spiders
My house is bug free.
My healthy fear ensures that I will not get bit.
It helps to have some sense of humor when envisioning these scenarios, not every weakness needs to be so serious. And the whole of your personality should not be thought of as only strengths & weaknesses, which is an example of Black & White thinking.
To find another way of reframing our "weakness" we think of other words that can describe the same parts of ourselves, words like: aspects, facets, qualities, features, characteristics, quirks, traits.
Moving past weakness and looking forward to progress
So we've now reframed our "weakness", how do we progress into the new year to become better people?
One way is to be vulnerable and ask for a second opinion. Often times other people can give us valuable insight on how to progress in some goal and can add their own strengths to ours. Coaches, is this starting to ring a bell???
It's what we do all the time. We understand that our clients have already made the first step and have asked for our help and expertise. We should take a lesson from them and be willing to be open with our own insecurities. Who knows, you may find that your weakness is an essential part of who you are and is what makes you, perfectly you.
To Wrap it All Up 🎁🎄
We at CLCI thank you for participating in & watching CLCI LIVE, taking classes. and sticking with us through 2020. We are taking a small holiday break from CLCI LIVE and will be coming back on January 5th, 2021.
We have a lot of exciting things planned for 2021 including a new Level 3 course that bring your coaching practice to new levels of mastery.
I personally (yes, me!) would like to thank Brooke Adair Walters and Lisa Finck for bringing me aboard to write for you all, along with Jerome LeDuff Jr., Ray Carmen, Daniel Olexa, and Joe McParland for making me feel like a welcome addition to the CLCI family.
Be sure to come back Tuesday, January 5th, 2021 at 4 pm PST/7 PM EST for our CLCI Live Facebook Demos.