As we settle into December many of us eagerly start to think about and set our New Year’s resolutions. But how often do these resolutions truly stick? Research suggests that 80% of resolutions are abandoned by February (Forbes), and long-term studies show that only 19% of people maintain their resolutions for two years (PubMed). These numbers don’t exactly inspire confidence. The truth is, New Year’s resolutions often fail because they lack clarity, emotional resonance, and a realistic plan for execution.
Instead of falling into the same trap, what if we approached the New Year differently? Join us as Jen Long (PCC), Jerome LeDuff (MCPC), Lisa Finck (MCC), Anthony Lopez (MCPC), and Brooke Adair Walters (ACC) ditch the resolution model and create meaningful, sustainable change with alternatives that work for both life coaches and their clients.
Why Resolutions Fail
Resolutions often fail because they’re set in isolation, driven by peer pressure rather than personal conviction, and done without real intent Here are some common pitfalls that can affect our ability to truly execute a resolution:
Lack of Specificity: Goals like “get fit” or “be more productive” are too vague.
All-or-Nothing Thinking: Missing a step often leads to giving up entirely.
No Plan or Accountability: Without a system to measure progress, motivation dwindles.
Unrealistic Expectations: Overambitious goals lead to burnout and frustration.
So, what can we do instead? Let’s explore.
Alternatives to Resolutions
Set an Intention Word or Theme: An intention word acts as a guiding principle for the year. For example, “mindfulness” can serve as a reminder to stay present and grounded in daily life. As one participant in our discussion put it, choosing a word like “mindfulness” helps focus on “being present in the here and now.”
To make it stick:
Define what your word means to you.
Find ways to integrate it into daily life—through journaling, affirmations, or reminders.
Break Goals into Micro-Habits: Instead of lofty resolutions, focus on small, incremental habits. For example, if you want to read more, commit to reading just 10 minutes a day. These micro-habits build momentum and lead to bigger changes over time. As noted in Atomic Habits by James Clear, “systems” are more effective than outcomes-focused goals.
Create Monthly Challenges A monthly challenge allows for flexibility and variety. For instance, dedicate January to learning a new skill and February to improving fitness. This approach prevents burnout and offers a sense of renewal each month.
Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection Focus on small wins rather than an all-or-nothing mindset. For instance, instead of berating yourself for missing a workout, celebrate the times you did show up. Recognizing incremental progress fosters long-term motivation.
Annual Reflection Instead of a Resolution Reflecting on the past year’s accomplishments and challenges can be a powerful alternative. Identify what went well, what didn’t, and what lessons you’ve learned. This self-awareness sets a strong foundation for intentional growth.
Vision Boards and Visual Goals Visualizing your goals through a vision board can make them more tangible. Use images, quotes, and affirmations that inspire and align with your aspirations.
Work with a Life Coach A coach can help you turn vague aspirations into actionable, realistic plans. Coaching provides a sense of personal accountability, partnership, and a space to reassess goals as circumstances change. It's one thing to say that you will work towards a resolution, its another thing to put your money where your mouth is and work with a coach to achieve goals.
This year, let’s move beyond resolutions. Instead of vague promises, focus on intentions, systems, and sustainable habits. Whether it’s through micro-changes, accountability groups, or the guidance of a coach, the key is to create a plan that’s flexible, meaningful, and rooted in self-awareness.
After all, it’s not about being perfect—it’s about making progress. And progress, no matter how small, is worth celebrating. Here’s to a year of growth, learning, and meaningful change!
Thank you,
Jen Long (PCC), Jerome LeDuff (MCPC), Lisa Finck (MCC), Anthony Lopez (MCPC), and Brooke Adair Walters (ACC)
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